Thoughts on Social Media in Today’s World.

Millie:  Ugh…this life….I just want it to be simpler.

Me: Not with all this technology.

Millie: I don’t know if that’s helping or hurting.

Me:  It’s too much knowledge, that is actually hurting us.  Social media is the biggest disaster.

Millie: Yea, I agree with that.

Me: That’s why i cant do it with the IG and FB, I shouldn’t know about whats going on with people who add no value to me and no one should get free access to my life.  You earn that by being someone special or close to me.  Social media leaves you without a guard up, in turn, there is no value on building on a relationship because you don’t need to make the effort.  For example, my mother would be satisfied by seeing my pictures, knowing my status updates and would never feel the need to miss me or feel like she’s missing something.  Why would I give the ease of justifying her negligence?  Same thing with any relationship.

Millie:  I guess i never thought of it that way.  I was just thinking in terms of providing more opportunities for people to be sneaky assholes.

Me:  The problem i feel with today’s society is… there are no boundaries, no secrets and abundance of opportunities to get information you’re looking for without ever having to go to the source and that goes for anything.  Someone might be IN LOVE WITH YOU, look at your pics everyday, knows everything about you but you will never know because he doesn’t need to tell you,  He can just click here and click there.  Without this shit.. men cud be gentlemen, women would be mysterious and you wouldn’t know about the last 10 years of exes!

Millie:  You just made shit real.  lol

Me:  It’s sad but true, that’s why i choose to stay out of sight.

Me: That’s why in the past, such as, I could get a random text asking me how I was doing and have an hour-long conversation about what I am up to from someone i don’t see and has no idea what i have actually been up too who might tell me I am pretty because that’s how he or she remembers me not because of the images i forced on someone’s feed.

Millie:  i have zero argument for your points. lol

Me:  lol

Millie:  They’re all 100% spot on.

Me:  I think about this stuff a lot.

Millie: I’ve never considered that and i don’t think that many people ever have.

Me:  Lol.  No one thinks of that!!!  Because society wants you to believe that social media unites people but it only gives them more of reason to never go beyond mediocre to get what they want,   if something is easy, you’re not winning,  you’re cheating somewhere and there are always repercussions

Millie: You need to post this theory somewhere.

Me: My blog?  No one will listen, no one wants to believe that, everyone wants life to be just that simple.

Millie: I just think it needs to be out there, write it on a piece of paper and staple it to a telephone pole.  You know, to further make your point. lol

Millie: I think they’re such good points and I’ve never heard anyone speak about social media that way.

Me:  Really??

Millie: Yea.  Like I’ve heard reasons why its bad but never those reasons.

Namelee [Daily Prompt: Name that… You!]

Do you know the meaning of your name, and why your parents chose it? Do you think it suits you? What about your children’s names?  Photographers, artists, poets: show us IDENTITY.

via Daily Prompt: Name that… You!.

I never really knew the meaning of my name.  Lisa means God’s promise and it comes from Elisabeth, Elizabeth.  “God’s Promise” seems pretty deep.  What is in a name really?  Who gives it that meaning?  Was my name a word used in language that they decided would be good to call someone?  Was the first person named Lisa extraordinary and full of God’s promise?  Did the person give the meaning to the name or did the name suit the person?

How could one really tell?  I was given my name at birth without a possibility of knowing what kind of person I would become.  When your parents name you, are you expected to live up to your name’s meaning?  I don’t think all parents name their children with the name’s meaning in mind.  I think it’s more of what sounds they like and if the names are cute or stand for something that exists in their family already.

From what I understand, my mother wanted to name me Christina.  My father wanted to name me Nina or Gina.  Neither parent liked their choice.  I don’t know how they arrived at Lisa.  I just remember my mother saying she liked the letter L.

I never liked my name.  I don’t know a lot of people who do. It is odd because you really can’t name yourself and you aren’t named based on your life or personality because it just started and no one has an idea yet of who you will be.  Does it suit me?  A lot of people call me Lee.  I like Lee.  I don’t know if I feel like a Lisa but then again how can you feel a name or feel a sound?  I think names are meant to identify ourselves and separate one from another so there is less confusion anyway.

And, in my research for the meaning of my name I found this on UrbanDictionary.com which I thought was really funny.

Lisa means : An intelligent and sexy female with LUSCIOUS physical features. Usually attracts weird guys named David who do absolutely NOTHING for her, but she still remains independent.

This is funny to me because I am Luscious Lee and my boyfriend’s name is Dave!  He does it all for me though so that is untrue but what a coincidence!

Journals & Blogs [Daily Prompt: Origin Story]

IMG_7169[1]Why did you start you blog? Is that will why you blog, or has your site gone in a different direction than you’d planned?  Photographers, artists, poets: show us BEGINNINGS.

via Daily Prompt: Origin Story.

Well I originally started on Xanga.com in February 2004.    It was the first time I had written any content publicly in my life.  I didn’t understand the concept but writing in journals all my life and being a natural-born non-fiction story-teller, I knew I could just write and it would be enjoyable.  I have always loved to document life in words.  Back then it was just about my everyday life, growing from 20 to 21, I didn’t stay consistent with it, I didn’t understand how my passion for writing could grow and expand from it.  I was young and if you clicked that link above you’ll see I was all over the place at that time.  When I look back, I realized it’s best that I moved on to bigger and better things.

For my blog, it is not confined to one category, I write about what I feel and what other people are feeling around me.  I create some poetry, I write some Tops Tens, I write opinion pieces and I follow daily prompts.  My OCD about being confined and committed to one theme makes me nervous.  So now I have more than one blog.  So if I confine the other [www,werdsineversaid.wordpress.com] to one subject, at least I still have this one to express myself freely.

I would really like this one to be successful.  Please send feedback on how I can make my posts more compelling for my audience.  I plan on taking a course in Professional Blogging, come September and I am very excited for it.   I am hoping that this will open more avenues for me to drive on.

100 Years [Daily Prompt: From the Collection of the Artist]

It’s the year 2113. A major museum is running an exhibition on life and culture as it was in 2013. You’re asked to write an introduction for the show’s brochure. What will it say?

Photographers, artists, poets: show us RETROSPECTIVE.

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Call me cynical but I don’t feel like life will  become any more glamorous in 2113 than 2013.  I only see humanity falling into more self-destruction.

Let’s go back to 1913, shall we?  Women standing here at the National Woman’s Party of the United States.  Strong woman fighting for a cause, fighting for their equal rights and using their minds and soul to will the inevitable.

 

 

 

 

 

Now we fast forward to 2013.  Here we have girls who look barely legal  in Atlantic City, New Jersey, dressed in their underwear.  I mean underwear.  IMG_6998[1]This picture doesn’t even justify the attire as to the lack of clothing I had actually seen in person.  There was no sign of intelligence or equality that those women had fought long and hard for nearly 100 years ago.  The strength and sophistication had been lost on molly’s, alcohol and other upper substances.  I saw young girls that had lost their self-respect and the value of their souls and bodies, just to booty clap in high thongs and pasties on stage to receive the attention that they probably yearned for as a child.

I can’t imagine life for anyone to improve in 100 years from now unless we mentally crash and burn.  The only solution would be to start from scratch.  I see 2113 as having more technology, more division among people and that fact will be hidden by the goal and assumption that social media is and will bring us closer together.  The more we know about each other, the more information that is accessible to us only gives us more drama to play around with. Causing more issues between us.

I fear what it will be like 100 years from now but luckily I will be 128 years old and probably sitting in the clouds watching from above.  Hopefully our children and their children will have more sense than the generations before them.

Split Personality [Daily Prompt: Party Animals (?)]

After spending time with a group of people, do you feel energized and ready for anything or do you want to hide in the corner with a good book? 

Photographers, artists, poets: show us PERSONALITY.

via Daily Prompt: Party Animals (?).

 

Going out with a group of people always sounds like a great on a Monday when the plans are for Friday.  When Friday rolls around though, I wish I had the same momentum as I did on Monday.  IMG_7017[1]

When I do make it out with a group of friends, most of the time I have a good time.  Of course, it depends on the group of people I am with, their attitudes that night and the venue.  I love good music, being outside in the summertime and being around people who aren’t going to bring me down because frankly, I can bring myself down perfectly fine in my apartment alone without spending a dime on drinks or cover charges.  So I feel energized when I feel comfortable.

When I am around a group of people who are not familiar to me and/or they are partaking in actions that I don’t approve of, I want to immediately go home and be alone.  I become very anxious and start thinking about all the ways I can leave and how I can do it without being so out of line and disrespectful.

So to simply answer your question, it depends.

 

 

Unavailable Is Sexy [Weekly Writing Challenge: Mind the Gap]

We all want to be connected but we don’t have anything to say.

Facebook at 10 years old in February 2014. Wow, how the time has flown. Sooner or later there will no longer be a generation that knows a time when our information wasn’t so accessible to anyone who was inquiring.

I don’t have a Facebook account anymore and I will tell you why. Facebook is invasive. I have heard so many people say, “Well, I can keep in touch with my family” and I don’t see that as a valid justification. The real reason there is a Facebook is so that people can get away with being nosy and invasive without looking openly creepy. The reason I say this is because I had fallen into that trap. I started off with MySpace and I was on that site more than I did anything else. Posting tons of pictures, searching for friends, searching for enemies, looking to see who was doing what and with who and remember the old saying, “Curiosity killed the cat.” I upgraded to Facebook, MySpace had faded out and now I had more access to invade another person’s privacy. I would look at my friends profiles, I would look through the albums and click on the friends of friends and look at their profiles and go on and on and on. I found myself so wrapped up in the world and it was making my heart race. I became very anxious. Not only was I looking, connecting and searching, but now I was either not being friended enough or I was being just as heavily watched. Before I knew it, there were the ex-girlfriends of the boyfriends that were trying to connect, the old pictures of them together, the wall conversations turned violent and PUBLIC and it was constant drama.

Facebook took away all the mystery, leaves nothing to the imagination anymore and users are over sharing their thoughts and their pictures with or without receiving the approval of the other’s involved. Technology has evolved and social media is continuously expanding and although it does have its pros as far as staying connected, it also has its cons as well. With all social media, it is a trending fad, and like sheep we follow the masses but what does that say about us? As a society, we are searching for acceptance and with that we conform to what is popular. We wanted to be “liked” and Facebook gives us the opportunity to see in a visual form who actually likes our stuff and who doesn’t. There is a problem with this though, the acronym is known as, “TMI” [too much information]. Now we are hit with the excitement and the disappointment instantly; leaving us no time to think about anything else. These feelings from a website can consume someone’s emotions, make them react and they feel it’s justifiable. Checking the news feed over and over, refreshing the page because maybe it didn’t update right away and having a mini heart attack every time your friend posted something but still hasn’t returned your call or text.

Facebook is proof that no matter how much we say that we don’t care, the pure fact that you are a member and have an account means you do care. You care about how you look, who is watching you and what other people are doing. Too much of anything becomes a bad thing. It succeeds because majority of society will follow because no one wants to be left out but it is hurting our relationships, breaking up our families because it has left nothing sacred for us anymore. Constantly, you see people checking their phones for social media feed updates but they aren’t taking care of business, their relationships, their children, their families, responsibilities because they are too engulfed in living through the lives of other people or trying to take them down.

So you ask me if I feel Facebook has been beneficial in connecting us and making us closer or if it has gone too far and I say to you, “Facebook, you are too close for comfort and I want my life back without the external noise and interference”. It gives me anxiety, it shares too much personal information and sometimes a person doesn’t want to be found.

Unavailable is sexy.

Weekly Writing Challenge: Mind the Gap.

Why Do You Like This? [Daily Prompt: Great or Greatest?]

Daily Prompt: Great or Greatest?.

What makes a blog great? What makes you follow a blog or “Like” a post?

Photographers, artists, poets: show us GREATNESS.

It is hard to pinpoint greatness when it comes to blogs.  What makes a blog great to me may not make it great to you.  I like a blog that is grammatically correct, one that shows expression, passion and beliefs.  I like to be entertained and educated.  In one aspect, I like a good homemade comic with a dose of sarcasm and in another, I like to read a really interesting entry about someone’s personal experience or to read about anything that will give me more knowledge on a particular subject.

It is all a matter of opinion and I say this because I look at the traffic of my blog.  The entries that I don’t really care for or don’t think are up to par get more attention and acknowledgement than the ones I write with so much passion and really feel are great entries.  So it all depends on what appeals to the reader.  I will continue to write about things that I feel passionate even if they usually get less attention and hopefully, my blog will be great to someone one day.

At the end of the day, it is not the blog who aspires to be great but the mind behind the madness.

Oh, What a Tangled Website We Weave [Weekly Writing Challenge: Love in the 21st Century]

Weekly Writing Challenge: Love in the 21st Century.

Although, I do not have a lot of experience with online dating or meeting guys online, I can give my thoughts on how the 21st century has affected love.  Whether you met a significant other online or on line at the grocery store, the internet’s unforgiving access to social life will interfere and I haven’t seen one case where it has interfered for the better.

Let me tell you a story about a girl who started dating a guy when America Online was the only real access we had to profiles and the outside world.   Well, when beepers were fading out and cell phones will getting the spotlight, this was perfect for young teenagers to keep tabs on their boyfriends and girlfriends because what is better than being able to call someone whenever you thought about them or find out where someone was located at all times, right?  Well that is what she thought anyway.

It started out when Billy received his very own cell phone.  Lisa knew all the people who would be contacting him on his phone since the phone was so new and they had all the same friends.  When the phone started to ring and the caller ID showed a different number, well that was a game changer.  Who was it, she thought?  Since everyone who had voice-mail at the time thought that their passwords should be the month and day of their birthdays in almost every case, it was very easy for Lisa to hear the voice-mail of the person’s call that he deliberately missed.  She came to find out it was a girl that he had met on vacation who he had been having a side relationship with for quite some time.  This is one example of how technology had interfered whereas without the cell phone, less information could be spread and figured out.

Situations had been resolved and years have passed but Lisa and Billy still maintained a relationship.  Regardless of the disaster, they tried to move on.  Now we come to the age of “MySpace” and “The Facebook” when “The” was included in its original name.  Hesitant at first, Lisa signed up for her accounts in this new world of social media.  Billy went off to college about three hours away but they remained in a relationship.  Lisa befriended mutual friends of theirs and ventured out into this world of information, profiles, picture albums, statuses, etc.  Upon her exploring the worldwide web of Facebook, she comes across a mutual friend of her and her boyfriend’s picture album that he had just posted.  There were so many pictures from recent frat parties and outings.  She browsed to see if there are any good one’s of Billy, only to find a picture of two girls posing and smiling for the shot with Billy in the far back corner of the picture kissing another girl up against the wall.  He had been caught.  He had no idea that he would be in the background of a random picture taken at a party.  Thanks to the internet, he had been caught.  Well a simple right-click and save of the picture and re-posting it on her American Online profile album with the caption, “Take a look at my slick boyfriend being caught red-handed cheating”.  Not a good day for Billy.

Well, one can only assume that the relationship was not a match made in heaven but that is here nor there.  Coming from an era where we didn’t have unlimited access into all these lives and then turning on the computer to a world of information, we can certainly see difference in relationships and how it taken a toll on love.  Whether or not, a significant other will lie or cheat is not the concerning factor but it is now brought to a brighter light for those you will now.  We see a lot more people finding out the bad behavior of others because of an internet slip up and in some cases it has ruined relationships.

In the case of Lisa and Billy, it only brought to light all the reasons why that relationship would never work.  So, you may like having more answers at your fingertips but it will come at a cost.  What we lose in the 21st century is the oldest saying in the book and in some aspects of life, it is what we really need, is the notion that “Ignorance is bliss”.

Anti-Social Attention

I have a contradicting problem with Social Media.  Yes, I like to blog, not consistently as it seems but not for attention but more for the art of expression through words as opposed to conversation or simply talking to myself.

I am rid of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.  Any other type of social media that is out there, I literally haven’t even heard of.  I was opposed to MySpace and Facebook upon their grand entrance, years back but i succumbed to their attention seeking temptation.   I remember working in a retail store where a perfect stranger came up to me and said. “Hey, you’re like the MySpace queen.”  I thought that was interesting to say the least.  I digress.  So I had Facebook and it was constant drama because at the end of the day, all walks of life do not have the need or right to know everything I am doing and I should have the sense not to broadcast my actions at every moment of the day.

And I hear, “but i keep in touch with my family”.   We have email, phones, texting, computers, all these communication devices that do not have to broadcast our personal conversations.  Why should John Doe know that I had a fill in at the dentist today at 1:20pm and at 8:30pm, I am going to take a shower and prep myself for a night filled with disrespect and low self-esteem?

So I had Twitter and in 140 characters I told anyone who was reading, what kind of day I had, vaguely abused someone without saying who, judged other people, tweeted how sexy I was feeling even though I wasn’t and hoping someone would be interested.  Why?  So I deleted it.

Instagram, I posted pictures, I looked at other people’s pictures.  I started feeling bad about myself comparing myself to others and indulging in the overcompensation with theses “thirsty” pictures of myself, just so anyone would “like” it.  Why?  So I deleted it.

Now, I can’t speak for everyone and I can’t speak for no one but really, these social media examples are not to bring us closer together.  Look, it is because we as a people don’t give ourselves and others enough TIME to enjoy each other, to pay attention and give the attention that we all crave as human beings.  So what I am saying is, I just can’t watch how desperate our society has come to get others to notice them.  And now we have new reasons for negative activity because of the attention or lack of attention that we get on these sites.

Instead of minding our own business and taking care of our issues, we are displaying our lives for all to see, for judgement, for praise, for negative and/or positive attention and for what?  It is one huge distraction and one big escape so we as a people don’t have to face the TRUTH about our lives, ourselves, our surroundings and our feelings.  Do you really need to be validated in every action you make?  Whether you got a new outfit, haircut, object or whatever, why does everyone need to know and why do you need everyone’s approval?  And on top of it all, why can’t you admit that your participation with these sites benefit you in no other way but to get the attention you lack?  That is what irks me the most!  At least say, “You know what, I wasn’t hugged enough as a kid, I never felt worthy enough or I crave attention, it’s just how I am.”  But no, it’s never a reason of seeking attention but rather, “My family can see my pictures, it is an easy way to keep in touch, who cares everyone is on it now, you know.”

I am over it.  And I am not innocent.  I tried them out and I just don’t want to be that thirsty.  I don’t want to look like I am starving for attention, negative or positive.  I rather have human, physical interaction and real compliments if I deserve them accidentally, not because I gave you an option to approve of it or not.

Later Days

You’re Are Only As Smart As Your Computer

We live in a technological era.  Over the course of the last 25-30 years, we have seen the evolution of technology.  We have watched the beepers turn to cell phones , talking turn to texting, books turn to screens, knowledge turn from something we possess to something we can search at any given moment, cassettes turn to cd, vhs to dvd, etc., etc., etc.

We come from  a place where a person built skills and possessed information to become successful.  A place where the brain retained relevant information based on studies and memory.  Today, we are in a place where we are dependent on technology and the unlimited access to search for anything right at our fingertips.  Pro or Con?

Children of the 2000’s will never know a time where a computer was not in every home, a cell phone is not buzzing or ringing and communication isn’t running rapid through emails, texting and social media.  There will be no experiences like going to the library to research an assignment for school or someone simply ringing your doorbell to see if you want to play outside or someone calling your house and you not being home to answer.  We are always available because we have access to communicate at all times.  You can get in touch with me anytime you want because I have a device that I take with me everywhere because God Forbid I miss your call, text or email in the second that you sent it to me.

We don’t have to pick up a newspaper to find out the news, we honestly don’t even need cable television to watch a show or have the news anchored to us, because we can go to any site that has headlines to see what is going on and we can watch most shows through the internet now also.

Now the point I am trying to get at is, we have come so far in our society with technology and our intelligence as far as mastering the machine to ultimately make us more powerful through machinery.  But the downside to this, is the lack of time we use to exercise our brain as a whole.  We build less skills, when having unlimited access to information at all times and if we didn’t ever need to have skills ever again, there would be no downside but because all good things must come to an end, and what goes up must come down, our dependency will be the downfall of humanity.  When communications fail, if satellites are destroyed by spontaneous actions in space, if we are stripped of having the rights to attain such knowledge because it will lead to a powerless world or lack of control to those who claim to be in charge, then what?  We will be lost.  Especially the children of our future, who were not taught to build knowledge because they are accustomed to searching every answer to any question that is tossed at them or given complete instructions on how to build anything without mastering it independently of any technological assistance. 

What happens where we lose communications, if technology fails?  Then where will we find ourselves?  Without skills, retained knowledge and limited supply of tangible books.  Skills to abbreviate words and continuously use acronyms to belittle everything your trying to express will not help us when we return to mailing letters to keep in contact with each other and relying on tangible books to read without the acronyms.  To think we would have to return to using words that are grammatically correct and to write letters again that could exceed 140 characters.

There is always an upside and a downside to everything.  We always adapt but I hate to be naive and not protect myself from machine and networking failing.  So my advice, keep reading, continue to learn and not rely so much on what you can find as opposed to what you can learn and obtain in yourself.  One day your skills and your knowledge can possess the power that you may have never dreamed of having because you weren’t solely dependent on satellites and machinery.

As cliché and as old as a saying this may be, “Knowledge is Power”, don’t let them rob you of the power you can posses independently.