Thoughts on Social Media in Today’s World.

Millie:  Ugh…this life….I just want it to be simpler.

Me: Not with all this technology.

Millie: I don’t know if that’s helping or hurting.

Me:  It’s too much knowledge, that is actually hurting us.  Social media is the biggest disaster.

Millie: Yea, I agree with that.

Me: That’s why i cant do it with the IG and FB, I shouldn’t know about whats going on with people who add no value to me and no one should get free access to my life.  You earn that by being someone special or close to me.  Social media leaves you without a guard up, in turn, there is no value on building on a relationship because you don’t need to make the effort.  For example, my mother would be satisfied by seeing my pictures, knowing my status updates and would never feel the need to miss me or feel like she’s missing something.  Why would I give the ease of justifying her negligence?  Same thing with any relationship.

Millie:  I guess i never thought of it that way.  I was just thinking in terms of providing more opportunities for people to be sneaky assholes.

Me:  The problem i feel with today’s society is… there are no boundaries, no secrets and abundance of opportunities to get information you’re looking for without ever having to go to the source and that goes for anything.  Someone might be IN LOVE WITH YOU, look at your pics everyday, knows everything about you but you will never know because he doesn’t need to tell you,  He can just click here and click there.  Without this shit.. men cud be gentlemen, women would be mysterious and you wouldn’t know about the last 10 years of exes!

Millie:  You just made shit real.  lol

Me:  It’s sad but true, that’s why i choose to stay out of sight.

Me: That’s why in the past, such as, I could get a random text asking me how I was doing and have an hour-long conversation about what I am up to from someone i don’t see and has no idea what i have actually been up too who might tell me I am pretty because that’s how he or she remembers me not because of the images i forced on someone’s feed.

Millie:  i have zero argument for your points. lol

Me:  lol

Millie:  They’re all 100% spot on.

Me:  I think about this stuff a lot.

Millie: I’ve never considered that and i don’t think that many people ever have.

Me:  Lol.  No one thinks of that!!!  Because society wants you to believe that social media unites people but it only gives them more of reason to never go beyond mediocre to get what they want,   if something is easy, you’re not winning,  you’re cheating somewhere and there are always repercussions

Millie: You need to post this theory somewhere.

Me: My blog?  No one will listen, no one wants to believe that, everyone wants life to be just that simple.

Millie: I just think it needs to be out there, write it on a piece of paper and staple it to a telephone pole.  You know, to further make your point. lol

Millie: I think they’re such good points and I’ve never heard anyone speak about social media that way.

Me:  Really??

Millie: Yea.  Like I’ve heard reasons why its bad but never those reasons.

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Two Steps Forward and One Step Back

If you could fast forward to a specific date in the future, when would it be?  Photographers, artists, poets: show us FORWARD.

via Daily Prompt: Fast Forward.

I don’t know why anyone would want to rush time to the future.  If I could do anything about time, I would slow it down and cherish each moment the way I know I that should every time I look back on my past.

If you fast forward to a specific date, you will have arrived in the present time and will constantly be running towards the next moment without enjoying the present one.

Children don’t rush to be adults.  Adults don’t rush to your next phase.  Seniors don’t rush to your death.  If we all take a minute and slow down, you might realize why we should.

 

Open Arms

The moment you stop caring, the world opens its arms to you.

My brother and I used to play a game when we were kids.  Say everything opposite.  So, if we wanted the night-time to be longer and not have the night feel as though we had just hit the pillow and the alarm would ring for school; we would say before we went to sleep, “tonight is going to go by so fast, it’s not even going to feel like we even slept.”

We used to play against the grain.  We would convince ourselves that what we wanted was ever going to be granted so we had to want the opposite for all our real desires to come true.

At such a young age,  I had branded life and all my dreams with thoughts of them never coming true.  That’s the past.

I am changing my life.  Piece by piece, day by day.  I am moving forward.  I won’t let anyone treat me like second fiddle and I won’t come second to my goals.  I am making myself first priority and those who can’t keep up, must quit and I am determined to never look back.

The Wonder Year [Daily Prompt: State of Your Year]

Write up a mid-year “State of My Year” post.  Photographers, artists, poets: show us NOW.  

via Daily Prompt: State of Your Year.

Quite the prompt we have here this morning.  More often now, I wake up in the morning wondering if the daily prompt will coincide with how I am feeling and I guess because of the law of attraction, it usually does.

Lately, I have not only been reflecting on the past few months of this year but also the past few years of my life.  I know I have wasted so much time not doing anything with myself.  Now, I see the nothing I did has attracted the nothing that I do today.  Granted I am not doing as bad as I dramatize, surely but I am not in the path or the state I wish to have been in by now.  I wasted all my years in school focusing on my relationships and the friends I couldn’t seem to make.  I realize all that doesn’t mean anything in the long scheme of things because I see that I am left without the fulfillment that I desperately seek.

This year, seven months in, almost 8 already.  What I have I done with it?  I learned more about myself and I learned how to value myself just a tad bit more that I had before.  I figured out what I actually like to do in my spare time, what my passions really are and what makes me feel comfortable.  I realized that I want more out of life than a 9 to 5 in any company that wouldn’t even send flowers to my wake.  I figured out that I don’t want to be Stagnant in Staten Island.  I don’t want to be complacent.

So mid-year, I have a lot of ideas.  There are many things that I want to do.  I want to blog, I want to take photos, I have a few crafty ideas that I am really excited about and I want to continue to draw.  I am looking towards the future.  I want to land at my life’s destination by January 1, 2014.  I predict by then my life will have chosen its path and will be on the road to fulfillment.

I can’t wait for the follow up post in January!

Simply Difficult

Tick, tock, tick, tock… I hear a clock ticking but all the clocks around me are digital.

I have so much to say again, but I can’t find a way to say it.  I keep typing a sentence or two, then I erase it.  It’s not giving my thoughts the justification it deserves.  I hate staring at an empty page, while the cursor just blinks, yet I find myself watching the seconds go by doing just that.

I know there are so many people out there who have so much to say and do not know how to express their thoughts verbally, that is not my problem really, I just never know where to begin.  I am a kind of “in between” type of person, but I can’t begin or end anything because it honestly makes me anxious.  Why?  Because there are so many different angles to begin one single topic and I always want it to be the best start and the same goes for the ending.  The outcome is so important and you don’t want to drag something out because then the creation is lost in the failure of the lost ending.  I am not even sure that translates correctly out loud but I am sticking to it.

I went to the beach on Saturday, I usually do.  But I went with a good friend.  Define good friend?  Well the obvious, very good at being a friend in its raw definition, but also, a joy to be around.  This Saturday, was a true eye-opening experience.  You know the kind where you don’t even realize you’re having a reaction until someone points it out to you and it makes you see your subconscious come to life.  Kind of a validation of what your gut is saying to you for a while, your mind just confirms it and it’s always good when someone is around you who can let you know when it is happening.

My life in 2012, a crossroad, a time passed the point of understanding that I am an adult but before a time where I have settled into my own skin, owning my life, my decisions and reach for the things that I want for my future.  Before a time where I have figured out where I really want to be and what I really want to do.

So here I am, an adult and I am not sure what path I am supposed to be on.  I have hopes and dreams of “doing something”.  But it is just as vague as it sounds.  What is it?  It is difficult to think simple when you are trying so hard to be simplistic.  Ah, everyone else seems to have an idea at this point OR have settled for society’s choice working the 9 to 5 until retirement and trying to reach for a cookie cutter life that does not exist in the least bit.

Children are raised to believe in fairy tales.  Raise them with innocence and hope.  I believe to raise them with truth and ambition for a realistic future without discouraging their innocence.  This is a little bit off topic but don’t all things stem from childhood and upbringing?