That Was Way Harsh [Daily Prompt: Sad But True]

“The was wayyy harsh, Tai.” (From the movie, Clueless)

Tell us about the harshest, most difficult to hear — but accurate — criticism you’ve ever gotten. Does it still apply?  Photographers, artists, poets: show us HARSH.

via Daily Prompt: Sad But True.

I am a big fan of harsh criticism because I am always looking to improve.  I really want to be the best I can be.

Recently, my friend of 13 years told me that I am cold and distant.  It came as a shock me to because I had never perceived myself to be either of those.  She basically said I am not mean or anything but stubborn and don’t budge and I am not a warm person.

I wasn’t upset or annoyed that she told me.  I like to hear how I was perceived.  I was just surprised that it was me she was talking about.

26 thoughts on “That Was Way Harsh [Daily Prompt: Sad But True]

  1. Do you think being cold/distant is a bad thing?
    You like to hear how you’re perceived so that you can improve yourself – do you consider becoming a warmer person improving yourself?
    If you do consider it improving yourself, you weren’t upset at all to find out people thought you colder than you feel?
    I’m a little confused; it hit me really hard when people told me that I was more distant than the average person they met.


    1. I don’t think being cold or distant is a bad thing. I just didn’t perceive myself to be that way. I thought I gave off a different vibe. I wouldn’t say being a warmer person is an improvement if a person is content with being distant and cold. I am nor content or satisfied with who I am in general. Nothing truly satisfies me because I am not sure what I want to be. It interests me, though, to hear and know how I do appear in the eyes of other people. If the responses I get does not sit well with me and I feel for myself that I do not want to be perceived that way then I will want to make those improvements and adjustments as best as I can. We see ourselves differently than people see us. That is what I find more recently. Regardless, if you are cold or warm or loving or hateful, it is up to your standard of what makes you feel content. It is about perception. Others perception of me makes me curious but it doesn’t have to hit me harder than the perception I have for myself.


      1. Being perceived as warm or cold is purely about the way you express yourself though – so you don’t mind being misunderstood as long as that misunderstanding isn’t fundamentally against what you’re trying to express?
        Feeling warm and expressing yourself coldly are radically different though…?


      2. Or is it that you think she’s right but you can’t imagine being any warmer than you are, and so there is no problem from your point of view? That makes sense to me, if it’s true.


      3. It doesn’t bother me either way. It is just interesting to know what she sees. There is no right or wrong. Its just about what makes you feel about yourself.


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    1. At this moment, being cold is the least of my concerns. I feel so far behind in my life as far as goals and not being able to discover real goals at that. So being a little distant is a product of my past but I need to worry more about where I am going then worry if I didn’t give enough hugs today. LOL 🙂


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